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Jul 14, 2019

If you’ve ever traveled the tube in London, you’ll hear an automated voice say, “mind the gap” when the door opens, reminding passengers not to fall into the crevice, that space between the train and the platform.

Today’s special guest, blogger Elizabeth Martin, from, talks with Vivian about the opportunity she had to take a “gap year” many years after getting married and having a family. In her blog, Elizabeth documents these changes in her life as she strives to fully experience them. We are reminded to be careful where we put our feet, so as to avoid the crevices. You may not know where you’re going, but if you’re fully present, then it can become an adventure and a mindful experience, not just another day you can’t remember after rushing through it.

Join Vivian and Elizabeth for tips on how we can more fully value our daily experiences by “minding the gap”.


Today, Vivian and Elizabeth Discuss:

  • The difference between doing and being
  • Family and obligations to our roles as younger women (and younger men) can preclude taking time to be mindful
  • Is this who you want to be, or what you want to do?
  • The transitioning of a role
  • Being open and guided
  • Experiences can become the gifts that you give your family, rather than things
  • The “homeless plan” or home-free plan for a year, became more than that
  • Trying to let go of plans and mastering letting go of the outcomes
  • Setting intentions but not being married to the outcomes
  • The concept of “fallow time” - allowing yourself to just think
  • Learning to sit alone and being comfortable with yourself
  • Practicing things that make us uncomfortable
  • Allowing your adult children to parent their children
  • We go through life and when we reflect, we see it differently
  • What is the practice you’re going to choose?
  • Who sold us Retirement, what the heck is it, and why do I have to buy into it?
  • End of work to end of life - lack of rituals and ceremonies
  • Inspiritus, the Latin word for “breathe”, and its importance for minding the gap
  • Leveling off from management to leadership
  • Letting go of our expectations of how we want our children to turn out
  • Letting go of judgment and accepting people where they are
  • Meditation: meeting your past self and future self
  • Getting comfortable with being uncomfortable
  • Cutting ties to the anchor: are you anchored to the right things?
  • The term “elder” doesn’t mean “old”. The term “elder” means “it’s time to give back”.

Resources and Links:

Within the community, the quest for this quarter is called the “The June Journey of Joy”.  If you use #lovebeinghuman on social media or mention me, you can choose to journey towards joy with me. This experience is the beautiful intersecting of the way I live and what I love to teach.

Elizabeth Martin:

Elizabeth Martin’s Consulting Business, launching next week: Inspiritus Leadership



“Encore: Finding Work that Matters in the Second Half of Life” by Marc Freedman


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